Deciding You Are Sexy

I have decided that I am sexy. Whether I am at a slender weight or heavier than usual, straggly hair or coiffed, lipstick or no lipstick (although I almost always have my extra-long wearing lipstick on), or sneakers or pumps, I make the decision to feel sexy. I walk like I feel sexy. I carry myself like I think I am sexy. I am friendly and slightly flirty like I know I am sexy.

And guess what? People think I am sexy!! Even when I am not “trying”.

A lot of it is in my walk. I walk with one foot landing in front of the other and swing my hips. But I also keep my head up, always have a smile of my face (even if I feel like crap – why wear it?). When I talk with someone, I keep my arms hanging loosely at my sides, chest forward with good posture, not fidgeting with my fingers or rings, I laugh a lot. I find many things funny.

Does this sound like a lot of work? It’s really not. I have done this so long that it comes naturally. I have also found that moving my body as if I feel great about myself helps to make it so.

If you feel great – show it in every aspect of your life. If you feel lousy – show the world that you feel great about yourself anyway.

Deciding that you are sexy, beautiful and exciting, shines through in all you do. Work it!

 

Beauty Takes Discipline

. . . especially as I get older. All beauty or fitness regimes take perseverance and discipline. I am unwaveringly faithful to my beauty and fitness routines.

A healthy body takes regular exercise. We all know that. But the most expensive beauty tools and cosmetics hardly make a change unless they are used regularly.

For instance, like I said in my previous post, I use Latisse every other night without fail. This way my lashes stay as full as they can. I also use 5% minoxidil every day, without fail. My hair is thicker now than before I started using the stuff daily. Admittedly, it is still not as thick as it was in my twenties, thirties, even forties. But using the minoxidil really helps. There would be little to no effect if I weren’t religious about its application.

I also apply body cream every single day to my entire body – arms, torso, butt, thighs, calves, hands, back, feet and neck. I have done this since I was in middle school. I am convinced that it has gone a long way in keeping my skin fresh, young, smooth and stretch mark free!

Of course, I have my regular exercise routine – which takes only twelve minutes when I am in a hurry. Longer when I have the time. Exercise is another wonderful thing we do for ourselves that takes persistence and discipline. But, everyone who works out knows, the results are so worth it.

No Time To Work-Out

 

I have no time to myself. So I have been trying to get as much of a workout in during the day/week that I can. Here’s how I sneak it in. Twice a week at my son’s hour-long boxing class, I weight train pretty intensely (the owner – Rich Dean, in Westport – is kind enough to let me use the weight machines).  I do three sets of each exercise to work a specific body part – working my entire body. I can do this in about twenty minutes if I go continuously. Afterwards, I do a full body stretching.

On top of weight training, I sneak in some cardio. I no longer rely on an hour of slow and steady cardio work (walking, running, elliptical, stairmaster, or climber etc). Instead, I do high intensity interval training. This gives me a better quality workout in less time. I walk/run with my dog for 2.5 miles. I start off walking about a quarter mile, then I run as fast as I can – counting 100 steps. This equals a little over 30 seconds. Then I walk, catch my breath and do it again.  In the course of 2.5 miles I sprint about eight times. That is a damn good workout. I’ve noticed a huge improvement in my cardiovascular health and, at my age, that’s important.

When I walk, in general, like in stores, to the pharmacy, into my kids school, I squeeze my butt muscles one side at a time. Doing this consistently is good isometric conditioning. Since I habitually do this, the effects really add up. Also, I squeeze my lower abdominal muscles as often as I can. This works especially well when I am waiting in lines.

All the above, which I do only when I can, but fairly regularly, helps to keep me in good shape. I would like to be in phenominal shape, but right now, that is not a priority. Being healthy and fairly slender (I am ten pounds over my usual weight) is important.

I will have to wait until the kids are much older to have the time to get back in fighting form.

Beauty Comes in All Sizes

I love plus these sized models. These two were the first to grace the cover of Sports Illustrated’s famous swimsuit issue. I was proud of SI for having the courage to go against the skinny bosomy stereotypes.

I truly find these woman-sized models inspiring, dazzling. Of course they are insanely gorgeous. And brave considering the fat-shaming that goes on in this mad world of ours.

I look back at when I was a teenager and younger, I always thought I was fat. Such a distorted perception of my body. I had a beautiful figure – as do a great many young women who shame themselves for being too fat in their own minds.

These models unabashedly sport their curvy figures letting us know it is ok not to fit the artificial standard of skinny – but gorgeous to have some weight and curves. I love it!

These two models are Robin Lawley and Ashley Graham.PlusSize

Honey Bees Help Keep Our Skin Gorgeous

Raw honey has been a favorite ingredient of mine for years. There is a great reason for this. It has an abundance of beauty benefits (as well as health benefits when eaten, in moderation).

First, it is an excellent natural cleanser. It cleans skin as well or better than many store-bought cleansers – without detergents or sulfates! Deteregents and sulfates are not just a no-no for your hair, they are brutal on your skin as well –  breaking down your natural moistsure-barrier. It has natural antibacterial and antifungal to clean and disinfect skin as well, again, without the harsh effects of disinfectants like alcohol, chlorine or detergents.

Raw honey is also an excellent humectant – drawing moisture to your skin to keep it well-hydrated, so skin stays moist after cleansing.  Raw honey is packed with antioxidents, phytonutrients, polyphenols ( a superfamily of naturally-occurring phytochemicals) which assist in the repair of skin damage, as well as prevention, protection from more skin damage.

The natural enzymes in raw honey help to keep your pores clean – so helps avoid break-outs and enlarged pores.

The stuff really is amazing for your skin (and hair, and overall health). Raw Honey is really packed with magical nutrients – above and beyond the ones we have identified as healthful. This is not a fad I am promoting here. It is a fact for healthy, beautiful and blemish-free skin, there really is no match, in nature, or made in the laboratory.

But be careful, only natural raw, unprocessed, unheated honey has these special properties.  On top of it all, it tastes fantastic and is a far superior alternative to table sugar.