Forget the Sugar or Salt Scrubs

I never liked using either of these scrub “exfoliators”.  Remember high school biology? It’s because I do remember that I don’t want to use these exfoliating scrubs.  Remember osmosis? Water in your skin cells moves from less concentration of salt or sugar through the porous membranes of skin cells, to the higher concentration outside – drawing available water from within the skin out and inserting salt or sugar molecules into your skin cells.

So, while they may exfoliate your top layer of dead skin cells, they dehydrate the healthy new skin cells through osmosis. The result is, a fresh layer of dehydrated skin cells. Not good.

These scrubs use oil – usually essential oils, which makes these scrubs feel moisturizing. But all they do is seal the dehydrated cells from further dehydration – or worse, they seal in the dehydrated cells and seal out any moisture from humidity in the air.

Also, beware of scrubs using plastic particles, they work ok on the skin, but are horrible for the environment. Think about those millions of dots of plastic getting into the gills of fish – sinking to the bottoms of the oceans and contaminating our drinking water.

If I am going to use a scrub, I use one with natural exfoliating material like ground apricot seeds, ground almonds, ground whole oats, or even ground coffee. The caffeine has the added benefit of de-puffing.

Truth-be-told, I use a washcloth and firm pressure to exfoliate my skin. It works for me and is less expensive.

Deciding You Are Sexy

I have decided that I am sexy. Whether I am at a slender weight or heavier than usual, straggly hair or coiffed, lipstick or no lipstick (although I almost always have my extra-long wearing lipstick on), or sneakers or pumps, I make the decision to feel sexy. I walk like I feel sexy. I carry myself like I think I am sexy. I am friendly and slightly flirty like I know I am sexy.

And guess what? People think I am sexy!! Even when I am not “trying”.

A lot of it is in my walk. I walk with one foot landing in front of the other and swing my hips. But I also keep my head up, always have a smile of my face (even if I feel like crap – why wear it?). When I talk with someone, I keep my arms hanging loosely at my sides, chest forward with good posture, not fidgeting with my fingers or rings, I laugh a lot. I find many things funny.

Does this sound like a lot of work? It’s really not. I have done this so long that it comes naturally. I have also found that moving my body as if I feel great about myself helps to make it so.

If you feel great – show it in every aspect of your life. If you feel lousy – show the world that you feel great about yourself anyway.

Deciding that you are sexy, beautiful and exciting, shines through in all you do. Work it!

 

Beautiful Gratitude

Friends and family say I am one of the happiest people they know. I have to agree. But it is not because of my life’s situation. I have moderate to severe challenges like everyone else. The difference, I believe, is that I live in a state of gratitude almost all the time.

Rather than ruminating on what is wrong or missing in my life, I think about what I have and what is good. I have a comfortable house. I appreciate and give thanks for that rather than lament that ours is one of the smallest houses in our neighborhood. We have clean, potable, running water. Most people in the world don’t. I have the use of both arms and legs – and they are very strong and coordinated (if I do say so myself). If I ever lost the use of them, I know all I would think about would be how much I wished I could have them back, and I would think that everything would be ok if I only had the use of them again. It is all perspective. I try to keep mine true.

I think being happy makes me more attractive to people. I know I feel attractive most of the time – because I am happy. I am very happy even when things go wrong, or when I am pressed for time, because no deadline, no missed event, no lost court case is all that important.

Beauty exudes more from one’s attitude than from any other cause, cosmetic or clothes.

I never lose sight of the joy, beauty, and love in my life. I think that makes me beautiful. I hope it helps make the world a little more beautiful as well.

 

As Below, So Above using “feminine” cream to treat wrinkles

I love secret beauty tricks that really work. Using estrogen on my face is one of them.  I use a cream called Estrace. It is only available by prescription. I have it because, as a post-menopausal woman, my private area is less “youthful”  (If this is TMI – skip ahead to the next paragraph) It is dryer, takes longer to become aroused, and the interior walls are thinning. So my Gynochologist prescribed Estrace to apply on and in, to help plump and moisten things up, down there.

Where else can I use plumping and moistening? Oh yeah, my face! I had already read about the potential cosmetic benefits of using an estrogen cream on my face. I had to do some research (using reputable sources, not just a “google” search source) and found that there is indeed evidence that applying an estrogen cream about three days a week does help diminish fine lines and thicken skin. It works – I use it.

I would be terribly remiss though, if I did not mention that there is evidence that estrogen can increase chances of some cancers. Further, I don’t truly know what detrimental effects using estrogen topically in such a way may have. So this is somewhat risky. If you have any questions, contact your doctor or dermatologist.

Thus far, I have been happy with the effects of using the cream above and below.

Beauty Takes Discipline

. . . especially as I get older. All beauty or fitness regimes take perseverance and discipline. I am unwaveringly faithful to my beauty and fitness routines.

A healthy body takes regular exercise. We all know that. But the most expensive beauty tools and cosmetics hardly make a change unless they are used regularly.

For instance, like I said in my previous post, I use Latisse every other night without fail. This way my lashes stay as full as they can. I also use 5% minoxidil every day, without fail. My hair is thicker now than before I started using the stuff daily. Admittedly, it is still not as thick as it was in my twenties, thirties, even forties. But using the minoxidil really helps. There would be little to no effect if I weren’t religious about its application.

I also apply body cream every single day to my entire body – arms, torso, butt, thighs, calves, hands, back, feet and neck. I have done this since I was in middle school. I am convinced that it has gone a long way in keeping my skin fresh, young, smooth and stretch mark free!

Of course, I have my regular exercise routine – which takes only twelve minutes when I am in a hurry. Longer when I have the time. Exercise is another wonderful thing we do for ourselves that takes persistence and discipline. But, everyone who works out knows, the results are so worth it.

Latisse and Extensions

I have made no bones about the fact that I wear eyelash extensions. It is one of my indulgences that have a great payoff as far as improving my look.

When I first started with regular extension applications, I stopped using Latisse, thinking it was no longer necessary.  Well, I was wrong. My natural lashes shrunk, and so, there were fewer lashes for extensions to be attached to. The result: sparser extensions and a much less dramatic look than I wanted.

So, I started with the Latisse again. For the first six weeks, I applied it every night. After that, I find all I need to maintain is every other night – so the stuff lasts twice as long. Which is good, Latisse is not cheap.

The results are definitely worth it. Also, I do not fear that if I ever decide to let my extensions fall out naturally, I will have some quality lashes left.

Smoking, Drinking, and Sunbathing

She doesn’t look a day over 162!

I can always tell when a woman is a smoker or chronic sunbather. One who smokes and drinks regularly is even easier to spot.

Otherwise beautiful women have leathery skin and fine lines

YIKES!

all over their face. Often voices become raspy. If the skin has a chronic tan, ugh! It is painful.

 

I one time worked with a beautiful woman who was in her early forties. She had huge, wide blue eyes. Beautiful lips, great cheekbones, perfect white teeth lovely hair, but her skin was very tanned and wrinkly. Leathery. It was painful to see this otherwise gorgeous woman ravaged by bad habits. And myths that she believed.

She was convinced that she needed to have a tanned appearance to look good. She also refused to use foundation makeup because it was too cakey and uncomfortable to wear. So she spent hours in tanning beds. Her beautiful face was withering.

I tried to delicately suggest she not use the tanning bed. She insisted she needs the color. Why not make-up, I asked. Too cakey. I can’t wear it. So you are willing to wear leather as skin?!! I was dumbfounded. She just couldn’t accept that there was another way for her to look good.

I am sure she would have looked lovely with un-tanned skin. But she was dead-set on her myth of how she looks good. It worked well throughout her twenties and thirties. It was time to rethink and adjust!!

If I could have taken her home with me, I would have made her use Retin A regularly. And I would KEEP HER OUT OF THE SUN AND TANNING BEDS.

It was just her absolutely untrue believsof that killed her looks. Now for smokers, it is not a belief, but an addiction that continues the damaging behavior.

Don’t even start smoking. Ever. Drinking alcohol daily in large quantities dries skin because it dehydrates our entire bodies. Don’t allow yourself to justify increasing drinking to levels that you KNOW in your heart are unhealthy.

I am aware addictions are not so easy to stop. But by not starting, you have a huge advantage. There are also excellent programs /out there that help addicts recover. To boot, many programs have steps of recovery that help one be happier and a better person. That is always attractive!

Never step foot, (or butt) in a tanning bed. Ever. And, duh, wear sunscreen every day. Period.